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Title: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on March 29, 2012, 04:34:55 PM
Well, I just came home from the vet, and I had to let my little Snoopy Sally cross the Rainbow Bridge.  Just devastating, I must say.  All the way there I told myself that I would take him back again tomorrow and that this was just to assure me that he would make it through the night. But no, the doctor said if he were her cat, she would do it tonight, and that she could not  promise that all would go well tonight, and he certainly would not make the weekend, which I already knew.

I told her how he had vomited up his Purina indoor kibble this morning and that he had immediately vomited up the last half syringe of AD that I had given him about 4 pm, and she said that as yellow as his jaundice is and has been for quite  a while,  she was absolutely amazed that he had not begun vomiting much, much sooner. 
He did not seem at all upset by his trip there tonight, first time for that. He was good as gold, and I was able to sit and cuddle him about a half hour or even more to make up my  mind. 

She assured me that each time I had come thinking it might be time,  she had been able to honestly tell me NO, he was NOT ready yet, but today, she could absolutely not say that.  And she said his eyes were telling her that he wanted her to let him rest.  His eyes did look very, very tired, and very distant, perhaps focused on another place, and they had no joy or comfort in them. His eyes had looked like that all day, and even some of last night.   Soooo, I cuddled with him a long time, and then I was able to hold him in my arms when she did it, kissing him all the while, and I  must say it was very peaceful indeed.

I feel certain he would not have made the weekend, or even through tomorrow.  he was not really comfortable last night, and did not curl up by my stomach as usual, he crawled under the covers by my back, and was not  his affectionate self.
Soooo, it is over, and I must believe he is in a much better place, in his maker's arms and with all my other beloved furry babies.
Still it is an awful thing to have to do, and I pray for forgiveness, even tho I hope I saved him some suffering at the end,

Thank you all for your caring support, and advice; I cannot tell you how much it meant and still means to me.  Bless you all.


Title: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Spartycats on March 29, 2012, 04:47:03 PM
I'm so very sorry, Barb.  Godspeed Angel Snoopy Sally.  You were well loved, and always will be.



Title: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: caylee on March 29, 2012, 04:49:16 PM
I'm so sorry, BW   :'(  :'(  :'(

Hugs


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: catbird on March 29, 2012, 04:59:28 PM
I'm very sorry, BW.   :'( :'( :'(  Bless you for the devoted care you gave him in his last days, and throughout his life.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Meowli on March 29, 2012, 05:10:44 PM
BW, I am so very sorry that Snoopy's time had come. Rest in peace sweet Angel Snoopy.
((hugs))


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Soo on March 29, 2012, 05:13:55 PM
BW, I am so so sorry that Snoopy Sally has crossed the bridge.. :'( :'( :'( Godspeed sweet little angel Snoopy Sally.  You are healthy and young again, joining other fur babies at the bridge.

I know how hard it is for you to make the decision, but you did what's right for him.  You gave him a wonderful life.  I am glad that you get to spend the last few moments cuddling and kissing him. {{{Hugs}}}


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: August on March 29, 2012, 05:26:37 PM
I'm heartbroken for you, BW.   :'(

I also wanted to mention that I feel your vet is really compassionate and kind.  It is no easy decision for anybody, and the vet surely understood how your heart was going back and forth.  As difficult as it was to let your Snoopy Sally go, it sounds like it was the best time.

Big, big, big hugs to you.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: mikken on March 29, 2012, 05:53:36 PM
You need no forgiveness for doing the compassionate thing for him.  It is truly the last gift we can give. 

Godspeed to him.  And healing love to you.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Mandycat on March 29, 2012, 05:55:00 PM
BW,
I know you were so worried about it being the "right time", but it does sound like the decision was at the right time.  You did your very best caring for him, and he knew that and loved you for it.  He is now at the Bridge and awaiting a joyful reunion with your other angel kitties.  Take care of yourself now, and find peace in your memories of Snoopy Sally.  {{hugs}} Rest in peace, sweet Snoopy Sally.   :'(   :'(   :'(


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: bug on March 29, 2012, 06:09:26 PM
It sounds like you are OK, BW. He was ready and he let you know. You gave him the most peaceful passing he could have had with all your love around him.

I'm so sorry he had to leave so soon. You know he's with the others now -- in good company.

{{{{Hugs}}}}


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: merrihart on March 30, 2012, 03:12:20 AM
I'm so sorry Snoopy Sally is no longer with you, BW.  But he has joined the itchmo friends who are waiting for their human pets to cross over.  {{{hugs}}}


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: JoMax on March 30, 2012, 04:19:55 AM
So sorry you had to let him go, but it sounds as if it was absolutely the right time.  Run free at the Bridge now, Snoopy Sally, in the peace and love you knew with your meowmie.  {{hugs}}


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: lesliek on March 30, 2012, 06:12:10 AM
I am so sorry Snoopy Sally had to leave you, but I think you did a wonderful job taking care of him . Right down to understanding he was telling you he was tired of fighting the disease. You kept him comfortable as long as you could and let him go peacefully as soon as he needed to. It's wonderful that your vet was so supportive. I am crying for you as I write this, but happy that Snoopy is young and healthy again  :-* :'(. I will light a candle for him to find his way to all of our angels.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on March 30, 2012, 07:05:25 AM
Thank you all for your kind messages.  I just wrote a really long reply to you all, and then erased it.  I am numb, I am in shock, it all seems unreal, and it may be that my tranq is still effecting me.  Never took one before, but now I have to take care that my bp doesn't jump up to 225 again, so I took one just before I took Snoopy to the vet. It didn't prevent my tears, but at least kept my bp down.

Am beginning to enter the stage where I regret all the time not spent with him privately, and all the love an affection I did not share with him as much as I should have/could have because I have so many.  But of course he was among the last of the kitties I rescued, so if I had not taken in so many, I might not have had him for my friend at all.  And he was always so big and fat and strong looking, I could not imagine not having him forever!

Leslie, may I please, once again, ask you for the  url  of the candle
website?  I simply cannot recall it, and I keep such lousy records.  Thank you so much for his candle.   
Someone is scratching on the kitchen door and peering in at me through the glass.  It is Hamish McDoogle, my big fluffy person, I must go, but thank you all so much again
 


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: trudy1 on March 30, 2012, 07:59:16 AM
I'm so so sorry . But please know that you right thing. And now he is at peace and in a better place.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Sandi K on March 30, 2012, 08:12:29 AM
BW, Im so sorry.  You took care of him so well and loved him so much.  Its so darn hard going through this, its going to take some time to get through it.  You are in my thoughts and prayers.  Godspeed Snoopy Sally.  {{{hugs}}}   


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: petslave on March 30, 2012, 08:21:01 AM
I'm so sorry you had to make that very hard decision and let your Snoopy Sally go, BW.  Your thoughts and feelings are the same we all go through, but it does sound like he was definitely ready to go, and wouldn't have made it through the weekend if his jaundace was that bad.  Rest in peace little boy kitty.  My thoughts are with you as you go through your grieving for him, BW.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: lesliek on March 30, 2012, 09:17:52 AM
Barb- Here is the candle site http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng&gi=I (http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng&gi=I)


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: catmom5 on March 30, 2012, 10:04:54 AM
It is so hard when their healing must come at the Bridge. I send you peace and comfort as you grieve Snoopy's passing. You gave him the final gift of love, BW.
Sad hugs,
catmom5


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on March 30, 2012, 03:16:57 PM
Thank you so much Leslie, Catmom, and Soo.  the candles are lovely.  I had forgotten that our group was "I". 

I was ok for a little while earlier, but now it has come in a wave again, as it always does, I know.  I am just so very tired of losing precious loved ones, very, very tired.  And this was a shock because Snoopy looked so big and strong and I guess I expected to have him for my friend for many, many more years.  Why is it the sweetest, and most affectionate ones we always lose.

It all seems to have happened in the last 2 or 3 months since my son got so sick.  I stayed away for one night, 3 or 4 times when I was down visiting at John's Hopkins in Baltimore and a couple nights when my bp was so high and I had to go to the hospital ER, so I slept at my other son's house, and then suddenly there he was half his size and I knew something was awfully wrong.   Just seemed like there was no warning.

Anyway, thank you so very much.  Kiss and hug all your fuzzies, and have a good evening. Bless you.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: catwoods on March 31, 2012, 01:08:33 PM
BW I have not been able to be here in awhile, but I have been able to read the forum, so I have kept you and Snoopy Sally, and your son, in my thoughts. I am very glad your son is doing better. I am so sorry though, that you had to part with your Snoopy Sally. You took such beautiful care of him, and he knows that. I know it is all so very hard, as I lost a kitty a few months back, and even after time, I miss all those I have had before.

I hope you can continue to take good care of yourself as you work through this very difficult time. Warmest hopes going out to you, that you can reach a feeling of peace and solace in the continuing love with Snoopy Sally residing forever in your heart. It does take time.

Rest in peace, dear Snoopy Sally.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on March 31, 2012, 07:08:16 PM
Catwoods, thank you so much for your message.  So glad to hear from you right now.  I am afraid I am having a really bad evening tonight.  I was ok today, but now again it is very painful again.  I was visiting my son, and didn't want to come home where I knew my Snoopy was no longer going to greet me.  The house feels empty even tho I have so many other cats.

I am so sorry you are going through the same thing.  I pray you are feeling better most of the time.

It is still so fresh in my mind, I can't help thinking of all the times I should have held my Snoopy in my arms but was occupied with other things which seem so unimportant tonight.   All the times he reached out to gently touch my arm, for attention, and if only he could do that tonight.  I always kissed his head and stroked and hugged him, and told him what a good boy he was and that I loved him  when he reached out, but I sooo wish now that I had grabbed him up into my arms and taken the time to sit with him on my lap, hold him tight, tight, tight and not let him go.  Of course I'm not sure that is what he would have wanted, his brother Tiggy comes for attention, and then can stay on a few seconds on my lap and then wants to get down.
 Nevertheless, I still wish I had those times back so I could at least try and hold him tight. 

So often, I took for granted that there would always be more time, that he would never be the next one to leave me, just too special, and chubby and strong.  Will I  never learn that it is always what you least expect!

I am happy and thankful, that he was able to actually sleep cuddled up beside my chest this last week or so, since I found out he was sick, that I have been sleeping on the aerobed by the livingroom sofa.   I am very thankful for that, but it just makes me  wish I had always done that, but now it is too late.

I am babbling on, sorry about that. I must try not to think of all the 
"if only's".    Thank you again so much, and I hope you are having a good evening.  Bless you and your angel.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: catwoods on April 01, 2012, 12:51:03 PM
I think it is natural to go through the "if-onlys", BW, and it's helpful to write them out and share them. I go through them and I believe others do also. If I weren't short on energy I would probably be writing them out, too.

Your great love for Snoopy Sally, your caring, all of it shines in the way you write about him.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: lesliek on April 01, 2012, 03:43:18 PM
I have always second guessed myself too. I think everyone does. We can only do our best , which you did. Unfortunately it was at a time that you had multiple emergencies but it seems like that always happens. You did all possible to keep Snoopy happy and comfortable and went as soon as he seemed ready. Thats the best any of us can do,  :-* :'(


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 02, 2012, 10:55:03 AM
Catwoods and Leslie,
I have been through it so many times, I should realize that there will always be "what ifs", but it seems that I should have been aware of that when I had him, and therefore done better before it was too late!

Oh well,  I guess I just cannot learn, and always will think there will be more time.  On the other hand, if we went along thinking that every day could be the last, that wouldn't be a very pleasant way to live, would it.

I have been desperately searching all my files for photos of him.  And for some reason, amongst all the hundreds of photos I took, I did not take very many of him.  And that was true also of Scoutie, and Barkley, and TommyTom etc.  Almost spooky that the ones I have the most photos of are still here with me.
Fortunately, I did take a few more new photos of Snoopy when he was so sick with me in the living room.     I should have taken more, and don't know why I didn't, just mental paralysis I guess, but I am glad I took the ones I did.

Now I must find a good spot to bury him, and have just about decided on a spot in my herb garden, outside the big window where he used to look out, and alongside where I have Tommy Tom.

I am going to make him a really sturdy canvas shroud, I think. Make him all snuggly inside it and do that instead of making a wooden casket, to save space. 

My son would make the wooden casket for me, but I am running out of space, and burying the caskets takes up soooo much room.  My son has about 12 in his side yard!!  All Skinny Bones's family are in wooden caskets, but Snoopy is the first of Sweetie Pie's babies to leave us, and I still have 16 more kitties here, not all are her babies, but most are and all are her relatives. 

I am really torn up about using a shroud.  My son says I should use cremation, he wants to be cremated,  but I personally am horrified of having myself cremated, so how could I do that to a loved little friend.  There are advantages, I could keep him in the house for now, I could have his ashes buried with me, I could move them wherever I might eventually  move to and never have to leave him behind, etc.  But I can't get over the fire thing!

I know in the old days shrouds were used, and the eventual result is the same, dust to dust.  I could buy a heavy cardboard casket, but they are almost as large as a wooden casket, and I am not sure they would last any longer than the heavy canvas shroud would.  Soooo that is what I am tormenting myself with at the moment.  My son says I do my best to try and prevent the "dust to dust" idea, even tho I believe in it.

What do you both do?  I should recall, sorry, but I don't, my  mind is a mess at the moment.  Thanks for any advice.  And for all the comfort you keep giving me. Bless you and your dear families.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Spartycats on April 02, 2012, 11:17:44 AM
BW, I hope it's okay, if I post a couple of your pics of Snoopy Sally here.

(http://www.wallnet.com/~bweimann/snoopysallycounterresizedforonline.jpg)

(http://www.wallnet.com/~bweimann/SnoopySallyloveseatresized350foronline.jpg)



Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Meowli on April 02, 2012, 11:47:56 AM
What a handsome sweet kitty.
((hugs))


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Sandi K on April 02, 2012, 11:52:00 AM
Sparty, those are adorable pictures you posted.  What a sweet boy Snoopy Sally was.  BW, I think the idea you came up with for putting him in the herb garden next to Tommy Tom sounds nice.  There is no right or wrong decision, its whatever you are most comfortable with.  We had our KiKi cremated and her ashes are still with us, I dont know if I will ever be able to scatter them anywhere.  She always felt the safest being inside with us so I think I will leave her where she is.  KiKi was always afraid of outside so burying her out there wasnt an option for us.  Im so sorry you are having to go through all this sadness.  My heart goes out to you.  


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 02, 2012, 11:57:22 AM
Oh my gracious, Spartycats!!  Thank you soooo much.  I have been trying to figure out how to do that!   For quite a while now, the website which has been the source for all my photos, was in the process of being moved, the server that is, so none of my photos were visible on Itchmo and I could not access them at all even to look at them myself.

What an intense relief it was to see my photos again, I can barely explain it, what a great relief it is to know they were not lost.  I kept telling my son, my favorite photos of Snoopy Sally are LOST, They are nowhere, not even on Itchmo, they have disappeared and I can't get them again, what can I do!

I begged and begged and finally my son had time to relocate the server and all my files, so just yesterday evening, I finally got my photos back again here on Itchmo.  I was sooo relieved and delighted to see them again, they were not lost at all, BUT then I had to try and figure out how to get Snoopy's photos into this thread, and I have totally forgotten how to do that.
  
It is as if you have read my mind!!  What a sweet, thoughtful thing for you to do!!  Thank you again so very  much.  Seeing Snoopy here brought tears to my eyes.  Bless you dear Spartycats!


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 02, 2012, 12:13:11 PM
Meoli and SandiK,  Thank you and Snoopy thanks you for your compliments.  Yes, Snoopy was an extremely dear, sweet,  and affectionate cat.  And his fur was just like silk.  He and Hamish McDoogle use to hear me take out the sliced turkey cold cuts from the fridge, crinkling the paper I guess, and they would both jump up on the counter for their treats of Boarshead sliced turkey.  It should have been a clue for me a few weeks ago, when suddenly Snoopy jumped up, smelled, but then walked away without eating any.  I was perplexed, and thought that perhaps there was something changed about the meat, but no.....

These photos are from about 5  years ago.   I will try and put up a photo I took last week, but first I must get a program to move it to my website, so it can be accessed by Itchmo, and I also will have to resize it, both things I have forgotten how to do.  Time to start using my brain again.

AND I just checked the herb garden, and the rosemary herbs have now become enormous bushes, it seems, and there is barely any herb garden left to use.  I will have to rethink that spot a bit, perhaps beside Tommy Tom, but by the foot of his grave instead of alongside of it.  A shame, tho i could cut back the Rosemary, but it is so happy.

And SandyK, yes, if Kiki was afraid of going outside, having the ashes inside with you is definitely the best idea, you are so right.  I am sure Kiki is very pleased to be safe and sound inside with you. 
Bless you both, and thank you again. 


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: catbird on April 02, 2012, 01:01:44 PM
It was great to see the pictures of your handsome tuxie boy, BW.  May he rest in peace in whatever spot in the garden you choose for him.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: August on April 02, 2012, 01:30:08 PM
I've been wanting to come post here and send you some extra <<<hugs>>>, BW.  Reading the things you wrote really moved me.   :'(  I'm sending much warmth and strength to you.  The photos of sweet Snoopy Sally are so sweet.  I want to smooch on that cute pink nosie.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 02, 2012, 02:34:02 PM
Thank you Catbird and August. Snoopy and I both appreciate your kind wishes.   I was just out there digging, and then I somehow was not happy with the spot.  I could not see it from my window, and it seemed to be too close to the water even tho it is the same distance that Tommy Tom is, and I have never seen water come up anywhere near that spot.  Our little lake always stays where it belongs.

However, after digging half deep enough, I changed my mind and so now I have  dug out a few patio stones near the steps down from my rear stoop. And I have ripped out some of the enormous rosemary shrub/bush whatever you call it that had grown way out over the pavers, and believe that I have just enough room to bury him there beside the rosemary, on one side and my little stone patio on the other.  It gets lots of sun, and is right beside where I go down the steps.  If I want to, I can sit on the steps right beside where he is, and i can see the grave from my slider in the sunroom.  I will plant some pretty day lillies there.   He will be right alongside where  I feed the birds, ducks, etc.  He is  much closer to the sunroom where he spent so much time, and I like the spot, I just have to go back out when I have rested, maybe tomorrow and finish digging it deep enough.   I already dug enough for a whole grave, but in two different places, so it doesn't count and there is still more to do in the right spot.  Now my old bones are really tired, BUT  I have my plan!!
And he will be quite close to us all.  So I think he will like this spot, so close to his family, in the sunshine.  I Just hope I don't run into some really difficult roots. 
Thank you again for your kind messages.  You are such a comfort.  Bless you all.




Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Soo on April 02, 2012, 03:28:07 PM
BW, what a cutie Snoopy Sally is!! Take your time and look after yourself too.  Sounds like you had found a perfect spot for him!!  Sending more {{{Hugs}}} to your way.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 02, 2012, 04:10:59 PM
 Thank you Soo.   You know Soo, the little cat that you have for your icon by your name, looks very similar to Snoopy, except I don't think that kitty has white on its face.  What is that little cats name?  That is not Wasabi, is it, I think you were holding Wasabi and he was a tabby, right??


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 02, 2012, 04:17:19 PM
Ah Soo, I just enlarged everything and I think now that the kitty in your icon is indeed Wasabi, when the photo was very tiny, it looked like a black and white tuxedo cat, but now that I enlarged it, I think I can see that it is a gray tabby that does look like your other lovely photos of Wasabi, such a precious, sweet looking kitty.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: NedF on April 02, 2012, 07:15:37 PM
BW, I'm so sorry you had to say your last goodbye to Snoopy Sally.  :'( :'(


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 02, 2012, 07:38:23 PM
Thank you Ned.  BTW, I love your quotation you sign off with.
May I ask where it is from?    It certainly is so true.  If only we could understand it all, it might not hurt so much.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: NedF on April 02, 2012, 07:53:50 PM
BW, it's from a British Scifi TV show called Doctor Who. Sadly, the actress who said it died last year of cancer, at just about the same time sweet Mooch died. That's why it was foremost in my mind, especially with my recent loss.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Mandycat on April 03, 2012, 12:45:13 AM
BW,
I sounds like you have the perfect spot for Snoopy Sally.  I don't know if you know this, but Rosemary is for remembrance.

"Throughout history the fragrant herb rosemary has always held a place of great esteem as the symbol of remembrance. Sprigs were laid at the grave of loved ones as a token of loyalty and commemoration. What better promise could be given to those we hold dear than the vow that they will never be forgotten?"

So, he will indeed be in the perfect spot!   :)


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 03, 2012, 07:10:34 AM
Mandy,
Oh my, that is wonderful, I had no idea. Well, these rosemary bushes have become enormous, totally enveloping the herb garden, and I am sure they will put more arms out over his grave eventually, unless I keep them trimmed.  Thank  you so much for telling me, it is lovely to know.  Soooo appropriate. An arm or two are already beginning to stretch out over Tommy Tom's grave just outside the edging.

Ned, thank you so much.  My son and I always watched Doctor Who together, a favorite program for many years.  Sorry the actress has passed on.   And my sympathy on your recent loss too.  Bless you.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: catwoods on April 03, 2012, 02:29:41 PM
Snoopy Sally looks so handsome in the pictures.I too feel you have found the right place in the garden for him. Many hugs and ongoing thoughts going out to you.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 03, 2012, 03:46:04 PM
Thank you Catwoods.   I have been sensing that Snoopy likes this location, if you believe in those things.   I just checked my work, and lo and behold, it is large enough and deep enough for one of those little cardboard caskets to fit, I do believe.  I could put everything, shroud and all in one of them.  I will think about that.  Now I am very tired again. All the digging really makes me feel my age.
A husband and wife goose couple came up into my yard and are totally perplexed about what in the world I am doing to THEIR patio where I feed them.   Paving stones strewn here and there, a big mound of dirt in the middle of it.  What in the world has possessed her, they are clearly thinking!!  What a mess!

Thank you again Catwoods.  Bless you.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: lesliek on April 03, 2012, 05:26:42 PM
I'm so glad you found a place that feels right ! It may not matter to them, but I think it helps us.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: bug on April 07, 2012, 05:33:49 PM
Snoopy Sally was gorgeous. Thanks so much for the pictures. I cremate all my loved ones, but that is such a personal thing. My former in-laws have a pet cemetery at their acreage where all their pets and some of their friend's pets have been buried. You know Snoopy best and I'm sure he will be happy with his final resting spot.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 07, 2012, 07:11:43 PM
Bug,
Thank you so much for your message, I am having a bit of a hard night tonight and it was a pleasure hearing from you.
I have not been feeling well at all, and of course in addition to Snoopy, I have so many concerns about my son, who is home now, but has an additional problem which I have never heard of before, a "drop foot" which caused him to fall last evening.
Something we do not want him to do, of course.  His wife says he is ok, so I guess he was lucky this time. 

Dear Snoopy is still here all wrapped up in his warm snugglies, inside his canvas shroud, and all of it inside his little cardboard casket from the vet.  It is all taped tightly shut with Gorilla tape etc. and he was all ready for his new grave,  BUT Shirley, my animal unfriendly neighbor has had company, grand children etc. and they have all been out in the back yard, and PEERING into my yard for several days, I even saw those kids peering into my yard from inside her sunroom!!  I don't understand what the fascination is unless she saw me digging for several days; and so now I don't dare go out and actually put his casket into the grave.  Tho she can't see the open grave behind the gigantic rosemary bush, she would see me carry the casket out.    I will have to wait till the coast is clear!!
Sad but true, but I think prudence is the best course of action considering my neighbors attitude towards animals.  Snoopy is comfy and safe where he is, so I guess he won't mind waiting a bit longer, bless his heart.

Thank you Bug, I am glad to hear about your pet cremations, and I am beginning to think that considering how very poorly I have felt after my few days of digging, that perhaps I am just not up to such activity any longer.  I hate to admit it, but it really bothers me, but age is what age is.
Soooooo,  I am thinking that the next time I lose someone, I also may have to start cremating.  For someone my age, it certainly would be far easier.

Sooo, I called my cemetary, and asked about having ashes of a pet buried with me in my plot (when I get one) and was astounded to learn that it is ILLEGAL in NJ, a state rule!!  Have you ever heard of such a thing?  I cannot for the life of me imagine what harm it could do to anyone, if I had a little urn or perhaps urns burried with me.   Is it legal where you live?  I am interested in learning about such a law and in how many states it exists.  And also it seems that quite a few of the Itchmos do cremate, so I am thinking most states must not care about people having their pets' ashes buried with them, which I think is very nice.
In any case, where there is a will there is a way.
So thanks again Bug, it was nice to chat with someone tonight.  And you are lucky that you know someone who has a pet cemetary.

I wish you and your fuzzy babies a lovely Easter.  And I pray your little new fellow continues to feel perky and happy, basking in your excellent loving care.  I'll bet he already knows how lucky he is.  Have a good evening and bless you.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: lesliek on April 07, 2012, 07:56:54 PM
BW- tell your son to use an arch support or some sports tape or an ace bandage. It will support the foot until things get back to normal. If he uses tape or an ace, it needs to come off at night.
 Shirley sounds like a real pita ! You should do the burial when you feel ready and if she says anything tell her where to put it. It's your yard and you can do whatever you choose there.
 I also prefer cremation for myself and most of the pets. Shelley and Sitka are buried because they passed at home. Patches and Gypsy were cremated and their ashes scattered in the yard. Remy's ashes are still in the living room, because he didn't like to be alone. Trooper will be cremated and I will probably bury his ashes and Remy's with Fragile. Fragile doesn't like to be away from us, so she will not be sent for cremation. Punkin and Oreo will also be cremated ,as will my DH. Neither of my children want to be though. I think its always a personal choice and about each person or pets like and dislikes. But remember if you have a lot pets, you will run out of room for caskets. Not to mention its hard to dig a grave big enough as you said.
 The important thing is to do what feels right to you.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 08, 2012, 09:33:24 AM
Leslie,
Thank you for your description of all your burials.  It is helpful, and your description of doing everything depending on your pets preferences
>>Fragile doesn't like to be away from us, so she will not be sent for cremation<< is also helpful.  I guess that is why, inside, I felt that Snoopy would want to be as close as possible to us all in the sunroom.

You are right, they don't all have to be done the same way, I can pick and choose depending on individual preferences, and it may be that I will be able to get someone to dig for me at some point.  The Lord may provide. :-)

I will check and see how things look next door, and if the coast is clear and I feel well enough, I may try and bury Snoopy today, tho I don't feel well at the moment.  I am going to try and  make a doctor's appointment next week with a cardiologist.  Something is definitely not right, and at times lately, I feel like I am not only totally wasted, but also walking through deep water, only way to describe it, slooow speed with lots of effort. 
I will go visit Jeff today.  Hopefully it will be a fun day for little Gracie, she is 5 1/2 now.
I hope you have a lovely Easter Sunday today, and that all of you and your precious fuzzies are well for the holiday.  Bless you all.  Barb


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: catwoods on April 08, 2012, 02:21:47 PM
BW, please do continue to take care of yourself; going to the doctor if you don't feel well is a wise choice. Enjoy your visit! Everything will always get done, I've found, even when you have to move at a slower, more comfortable pace.

Many blessings and hugs to you.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: lesliek on April 08, 2012, 04:00:25 PM
BW- You need to be checked for congestive heart failure, some of your symptoms sound like that. You may also want the Dr to check your B12 levels, you may need a shot. Please make the appt tomorrow if you are still having trouble. Remember to take all your meds & supplements or a list of them. It could be a reaction between medications too.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 08, 2012, 05:39:01 PM
Leslie and Catwoods,  Yes, I will call for a doctor's appointment tomorrow.  I did manage to put Snoopy into his grave today.  I almost filled it up, but then got so tired, I thought I would finish tomorrow, it's just about done, and he is safe and sound inside.

I went to Jeff's and he is looking better today.  I am supposed to go there tomorrow after lunch so that he is not alone.  Melissa is afraid for him to be alone too long, considering he fell down the other evening.
But I will absolutely call for a doctor's appointment, since I still don't feel normal.  My bp was good today, so it must be something else, I still suspect my heart Leslie.
I found something online about a pulse pressure, the difference between the systolic and the diastolic, and supposedly, it shouldn't be more than 40 or so different, and mine is ALWAYS far greater than that, my bottom number is usually  70 to high 90's different from the top.  When my bottom number was low, I was always pleased, but now I realize that is not good in comparison to the upper number.  It is called Isolated systolic hypertension.  So I am wondering why the doctor never explained that to me, and I will certainly ask when I go to see him.
I am wondering if it can explain why I feel so awful much of the time lately.   I was attributing it to all the stress, but it may be something more.  You are right Leslie, and I will certainly look into it.  Thank you.



Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: JoMax on April 09, 2012, 03:45:45 AM
BW - thinking of you & do take good care of yourself - it sounds like you have had a lot of stress/focus away from your own health, but it's good that you are now considering that more closely.  Please keep us updated as I know we all share concern & care about you.
On the cremation/burial issue for my furries, I have always preferred the former, since I move house frequently and would hate to leave any of mine behind.  Over here it is preferred for people too - since land for burial is in short supply & expensive - and also you have the issue of ongoing care for the grave.  I want my ashes to be mixed with my beloved furry ones - if the cremation doesn't allow that, they can't stop whoever scatters them putting us together first.....
Although I am lately drawn to the idea of a woodland burial, where you have a rapidly biodegradable casket & a tree  is planted over you.  Perhaps they wood allow my dear ones ashes to be added there.
 



Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: catmom5 on April 09, 2012, 05:20:39 AM
I have been away, but wanted to echo what the others have said about taking good care of yourself. It's not easy growing older (I know!) and you have had a rough go of it with your son's medical challenges and Snoopy's passing. Now it's time for YOU!

It's interesting to hear everyone's plans and intentions for the remains of their furries and themselves. I wish I had made the decision to cremate and keep ashes sooner than I did, but I have several of my cats' ashes and two pups (one is Tiffany plus friends - didn't know about private vs group cremation at that point) and hope to have their ashes mixed with mine and scattered. I think the important thing is that you do what feels right to you and that fits your own situation. Your furries are at the Rainbow Bridge, whole and healthy once again, so their earthly bodies are just a part of who they are.

I'm glad that Snoopy is at rest now. It's hard for us, though, isn't it?

Take good care of yourself, dear lady, and please let us know how you are doing.
catmom5


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: Soo on April 09, 2012, 05:15:46 PM
BW, everyone basically said what I want to say.  Take good care of yourself, everything else can wait.  You have a lot going on, you should take time to take it easy.

I had wasabi cremated since I want to carry him around in every room I goes to.  I will place him in his favourite spots, where the sun shines, where he can sees outside.  He was an indoor cat, I only let him out for 30 minutes top during summer and he only hang outside for around 2 minutes when it is 40 below.  You do whatever feels right for you.

Please take good care of yourself, sending you lots of {{{Hugs}}}.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: bug on April 09, 2012, 06:01:37 PM
BW, I hope you got an appointment for yourself today and that you're feeling better than the last little while. There are a lot of reasons why your pulse pressure could be high, including the medication you're taking for your heart. It's good to get it checked out, no matter what it may be.

I don't know if mixing animal and human ashes here is legal or not and I don't actually care. The instructions for whichever family member will get me cremated will be to mix all the ashes before I go to wherever I'll/we'll be stored or scattered. It was illegal for me to scatter my dad's ashes where I did, but I did it anyway. The only logic behind this being illegal is if you have to identify the ashes at some point in time through DNA examination. But, at that point, you wouldn't care anyway because you're dead.

I've always liked cremation because it takes up no space at all and you don't have to dig a hole and you don't decompose into something bad-looking. I've always liked the viking burials at sea where they'd set them off on a raft lit on fire. Always thought that was kinda cool.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 09, 2012, 06:37:23 PM
Bug, yes indeed, the Viking burials were very cool!!  I do kind of like that idea.
I was not able to get a doctor's appointment today, I had to go baby sit my son. We are all worried that he will fall again, and be alone when it happens.  But I will certainly make one.  I finished covering up Snoopy in his grave this morning, and that was a relief.  (and the end of the hard physical labor, which I now seem incapable of doing without suffering afterwards)

Last night, after I had placed him in his grave, coming home from my son's, I swear I had my first "visit."   I've sensed things,  but this was stronger and seemed more like a real visit.  I was thinking about politics at the time, something totally unrelated, when suddenly I got my visit.
Poor Snoopy was probably very relieved and grateful that I finally got him into his little grave! :-)    I don't know if you believe in "visits" but it made me feel better, as if he really still is "somewhere."  And that is important to me.

Tomorrow I will try and make an appointment.  I want to have an ultrasound.  I did have one several years ago, I've had 2 actually since I moved to this house, hmmm, within 8 years, and I did have a very minor valve leak, which might have grown worse over the years.

And Yes, I am wondering if it could indeed be one of the medications I'm taking for my blood pressure.  I will go back in my records so I can see when the high pulse pressure started.  I've been keeping bp records for years, since on my mother's side, ALL the women died of strokes.  So far I have outlived all of them.  Fingers crossed.

And I simply HAVE TO KEEP GOING, I have soooo many cats to care for, and no one else would want them.  That is such a big concern.
AND regrding the ashes, I may have to break the law too, but I really wouldn't mind doing that, it would be for a very good cause, I feel.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 09, 2012, 06:49:08 PM
Catmom5, and JoMax, and Soo, thank you so much for your caring messages.  Now that Snoopy is buried, I certainly will try and start taking better care of myself, and get a doctor's visit, and an ultrasound.
I do believe that a lot of it is stress, and stress can cause problems with one's heart, especially at my age.  It has been several months of severe stress, so I should really not be surprised to be feeling so unwell.
My son did look much better today, and this was the first weekend he has actually spent at home and not had to be medivacked back down to Hopkins.  We were all very relieved.

JoMax, the wooded area with the tree planted over the ashes, sounds wonderful.  I wish I had something like that around here.  I am going to plant pretty yellow day lilies over Snoopy Sally.

And Catmom, I appreciate all the info about how you and JoMax and the others have buried their loved friends.  It is very helpful.  I may well begin to use cremation, there do seem to be many advantages.
Uh oh, it is almost 11 pm, and I promised myself to start going to bed earlier, so I must say good night to all the dear Itchmos.  Sweet dreams all of you, and bless you.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: bug on April 10, 2012, 08:34:54 AM
BW, about your son and his drop-foot. Can he get a pair of crutches for now, until they find the cause and rectify it? My neighbor has had it in the past and she needed walking assistance but recovered soon enough. Hope you got an appointment for yourself today.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 10, 2012, 04:39:04 PM
Bug, I just wrote a long message to you and then accidentally hit the mystery key that deletes everything, and lost it.  Won't write it again, probably too much info anyway, but thank you for the suggestion about the crutches.  They might be better than the cane.  he does have a walker with wheels for when he walks outside.  I'll tell him about your neighbor, and that will encourage him.
I am working on getting an appointment for an ultrasound, which I really want.  A month or so ago, when I had to go to the ER for my 225/115 bp, they did all sorts of other tests, blood work, EKG, and an Xray of my heart.  My doctor got all the info, and that's when he put me on the 2nd bp pill and xanax  for when I'm stressed.  I still want the ultrasound.

Thanks again for the suggestion about the crutches, I'll tell my son.  Bless you, and hope your new little fuzzy is continuing to improve.  Did  you put a photo up of him somewhere??  I'd love to see him.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: bug on April 11, 2012, 05:54:00 AM
I'll get some photos of Cooper up in the Den in the next couple of days. He really doesn't hold still long enough for me to actually take a decent photo.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 11, 2012, 08:31:34 AM
Bug, great, I can't wait to see Cooper, and btw, I like that name a lot too.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: bug on April 12, 2012, 07:29:06 AM
His full name is Mini-Cooper -- after the car because he's small and cute and fast.


Title: Re: Snoopy Sally has gone to the Rainbow Bridge
Post by: BW on April 12, 2012, 06:45:28 PM
Bug,
Oh, that is really cute!  Yes, those cars are cute too.  Great name.